Thursday, July 21, 2011

My Selena

Our lives have been shaken up a bit in the last week.  Things were humming along nicely, but always when you think everything is perfect something comes along to shake it up.  You know, like how God likes to shake our foundations once in awhile?  
Selena.  She is always the one I have had dreams about. She is so steady and calm, but the one I lost in the Schottenstein Center when she was 9 years old.  She said mom I wasn't lost - but I said to me you were.  I'm not sure why it's not the crazy older or younger kid that I have scary dreams about, but it's not. It's always her.

She has crazy dreams too.  Dreams we talk about and dissect.  She is older and wiser than her 16 years.  She is meant for something higher, and God knew that when she was just a little girl. It's also I'm sure why He knew she could handle things.

Injuries suck.  I'm just saying it how it is.  When she fell last week at soccer camp at Cedarville College and heard those three pops as she went down, God already knew what he was doing.  I can't say it was meant to happen, although that is what she tells me.  He probably knew she could handle it.  As for me, the tears wouldn't stop.  The parent of any athlete can tell you just how hard it is to see your child in pain and off the field.  

Soccer isn't our everything.  There is more to life than getting on that field and just going hard.  But to a 16 year old going into her Jr. year of high school, it's pretty darn important.  She blithely tells me mom, it's okay.  I have my senior  year and I'll be better than ever.  As for me, until I see that MRI result (which is happening tomorrow) I'm believing God is knitting her back together.  

In the wise words of Pee Wee Herman (!) ".....knitting and knitting and knitting and knitting..."   If anyone has not seen Pee Wee's Big Adventure then you must google it.  Those words were never wiser! 

Below is my entire blog post from the Holmes County Bargain Hunter.  It's what I feel and what I know.  Because without faith, what is there? 

A God of small things 
By: Melissa Herrera

"He performs wonders that cannot be fathomed, miracles that cannot be counted." Job 5:9


What are they?  Do they really happen or are they just coincidences?

….or maybe they are just God’s coincidences?

Children’s bodies are strong.  Smooth, supple skin that tans in the hot sun.  Endurance and energy that comes from a hidden wellspring that is deep within them.  The belief that nothing is going to happen to them.

It’s that wild abandon that we sometimes lose as adults.  We see our own mortality as the years gather around us.  As children, 30 seemed so far away and so old.  I laugh when I ask my kids, well how old is he/she?  Oh pretty old, maybe your age.  It’s a sense of yourself that keeps you young, no matter what age you are.  Even at 42, I still feel 25… though you could never pay me enough to actually go back to that age.

I certainly don’t look 25, but I’ve had lots of strangers tell me I don’t look old enough to have an almost 21 year old.  Thank you kind stranger.

I believe in miracles.  I believe with abandon.

My dad has been gone now for close to two years.  He lived a full life with a lot of sickness at the end of it.  Through it all, he still looked – to me anyway – like the very tan, healthy dad I remember.  He would have a heart procedure, and come out and say, “No, I wasn’t afraid. I feel great.”  

I don’t know whether I actually believed in miracles until his ventricular storm happened.  His heart went wild, and his defibrillator even more.  When a paramedic neighbor came over to mom and dad’s house in the middle of the night, he was close to gone.  At the hospital, he was gone.  For 45 minutes they worked on him as he wasn’t breathing nor his heart beating.  They told us to be prepared.  Still, they took him to Aultman Hospital where he was put under a new technology at the time – a cold blanket.  It lowers the temperature to where the body, they say, can start to heal itself.  For days we all waited.  He would open his eyes and look around, and in my mind I was thinking he’s just not there.  It’s not going to be him, he was down for so long. 

I’m not sure, at that point, where my faith was.  All the doctors told us was that if he woke up, he wouldn’t be our Dad anymore.  Too much damage.  Not enough oxygen. 

I don’t think Dad or God was listening.  He woke up.  And he was Dad.   And he lived for another three years, against all odds. 

What I need to remember is that those odds weren’t God’s odds. God has a different set of odds that aren’t of this world.  We witnessed a miracle, and The Tribe of Clyde had their Dad, Grandpa, and Great-Grandpa for bonus time.  That’s what he always called it.

I think… no, I know that my God is the God of small miracles.  He’s with us in times that may seem insignificant to the world.  Times that are small in scope to others, but dire and heart breaking in our lives.  Times that, although aren’t life threatening, mean the world and more to who they happen to. 

My heart pulses loud and fast today.  I believe, with an abandon that’s against all the world’s odds, that God will perform a small miracle today and in the coming weeks.  It’s insignificant to you.  Nothing but a mere blip you might hear about and say, Oh wow, that’s too bad. 

Still, I choose to believe.  Because if we don’t believe in miracles, hope against hope, and throw it all to the wind and say God, it’s yours – what is there to believe in?

Whether God chooses to bless us with this miracle, I don’t yet know.  I do know that I choose to believe until He shows us otherwise.  Because miracles still happen.  Big, small, in front of the world, and behind the scenes.  So many have given up hope and tell you it can’t happen.  I, for one, choose to believe.

Let go and let God.

Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Summer 2011

I will not label myself a bad blogger - even though all I've done is throw a few pictures on lately. 

It's summer. 

That means humid weather, barbecuing, taking random short road trips, and all around reconnecting with my family.  We've been watching alot of soccer, and the kids summer soccer schedules are also in full swing.

It's also the first summer I've worked and my kids were at home.  :/   It's hard, but they aren't small anymore so they are pretty self-sufficient.  They make it easy because I'm not a clingy mom and they aren't clingy kids.  We raised 'em good.

Our trip to Mexico was fabulous.  Having Belle fly in from West Palm Beach and meet in the Mexico City airport was like something out of a movie.  We didn't realize there was a new second terminal there, so of course she landed at the unknown-to-us 2nd terminal.  After a short train ride, we were reunited.  We flung our arms around each other and yes - it was just like out of a movie.

The family was awesome.  As always, there's slight conflict in any latin family.  Heck, there's conflict in every family.  George is not one to let things simmer so there was good convo, heated convo, and casual convo.  There were long breakfasts with great food that lasted for hours.

The kids took to the streets to play futbol and hang with friends they hadn't seen for five years.  Everyone had grown up and gotten so big.  It did my heart good to see them out there having fun.

We took a surprise trip to Acapulco thanks to one of my sister-in-law's sister-in-laws .... if that makes sense!  They had chartered a bus to Acapulco and had several seats left.  Before we knew it we where traveling by darkness and awoke to the lush landscape that is Acapulco.  It was so random and spontaneous that thinking back I can hardly believe we were there for four days.  

The hillsides dotted with houses that seemed to extend into the bays like long fingers.  It reminded me of Greece or at least the pictures you see of the Grecian hillsides.  We stayed in the La Caleta area, which as we found out later, was where most Mexican people stay when they visit Acapulco.  It was the homeland resort - and it was beautiful.  

We are not ones just to hang out in one place, so we took to the streets and grabbed buses to all the beaches we wanted to go to.  Those buses were memorable.  They were pulsing with loud music, each bus a different variety.  They would fly around the curves etched into the roads that led to where we wanted to go.  You had to hold on for dear life.  We would laugh so hard as we flew around each curve.  We have pictures, which I will post later, that showed these buses.  

We fried in the sun, while waiters in white pants brought us giant shrimp and cold cerveza con limon. All this while sitting in our colorful wooden chairs under a grass hut. I want to go back.

Acapulco was an unexpected pleasure.  The cliff-diving, remote beaches, and food I will never forget. My kids faces as we watched the divers plunge into the water.  I would never take back being spontaneous - ever.

We visited the pyramids, and also celebrated Selena's 16th birthday for which she had her first real mananitas sung to her.  She didn't want us to sing happy birthday in English.  She said it would have ruined the moment. :)

Now we're home and sinking back into reality.  July is half over already.  The kids have traveled to the Mennonite  Youth Convention in Pittsburgh.  George and I were alone for a week and what bliss it was.  It's a good portent of how we will fare when all our kids graduate.  We spent time watching movies, eating, and taking off on more random short day trips. 

It's summer.  I only have three more summers with my kids home.  Or at least in school and home.  Once they're off to college they aren't really yours anymore. 

Here is a short list of words I'm going to use to define the summer of 2011:

-- savor
-- relax
-- patience
-- reap
-- be present

How is YOUR summer going?

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Semi-Wordless Wednesday

"i don't know what it is about you that closes and opens, only something in me  understands the voice in your eyes is deeper than all roses."  e.e. cummings